It’s incredible to witness the best of humanity when someone gets a terrible medical diagnosis for a loved one in their family. It’s truly heartwarming the way communities rally together, organizing fundraisers at the bowling alley, and showing up with pans of lasagna at their doorstep.
But it breaks my heart to see that when it comes to someone struggling with addiction, most people just don’t know how to help. It’s a different story altogether. Families of those who are addicted often suffer silently, feeling alone and unsupported. It’s a tough situation, and we need to find better ways to be there for them. It’s tough to see our friends struggling with the challenges of having an alcoholic parent, spouse, or adult child, but we can be their rock during these trying times. Here are some ways we can offer a helping hand:
1. Listen and Understand
First things first, let’s be there to listen and understand without any judgment. Our friends need a safe space to share their feelings and experiences, and we can be that listening ear they need.
2. Get Educated About Addiction
Alcoholism is a complex issue, so let’s take some time to educate ourselves about it. It’ll help us offer better support and be more informed friends. Read the books and encourage your friend to read them.
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3. Show You Care
Our empathy and understanding can make a world of difference to our friends. Let’s show them that we genuinely care about their well-being and that they can lean on us for support.
4. Remind Them They’re Not Alone
Encouraging our friends to seek professional help or join support groups like Al-Anon can be a game-changer. Remind them that they’re not alone in this journey.
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5. Lend a Hand
Sometimes, everyday tasks can become overwhelming for our friends. Offering practical support like running errands or helping with chores can make their day a little brighter. This may take a little nudging, especially with adult children of alcoholics because we are reluctant to accept help.
6. Respect Their Boundaries
Being there for our friends doesn’t mean prying into their personal lives. Let’s respect their boundaries and give them the space they need to process things at their own pace.
7. Take Care of Yourself
As we support our friends, let’s not forget about ourselves. Encourage them to practice self-care, and let’s do the same. We need to be in a good place to be the best friends we can be.
8. Create Fun and Laughter
Amid the tough times, let’s find moments of joy together. Suggesting activities or distractions that can lift their spirits can be a wonderful way to bond.
9. Be Patient
Recovery takes time, and our friends might have some ups and downs. Let’s be patient and understanding, cheering them on every step of the way. They may push you away a bit. Let them. It’s all part of the process.
10. Celebrate the Wins
Every little progress deserves a celebration! Let’s celebrate even the tiniest victories, knowing that our support can be a source of motivation.
With our friendly support, we can be a guiding light for our friends during these challenging moments. Let’s be there for each other and navigate through this journey hand in hand. Together, we’re stronger.
