Your first job in life is to take good care of yourself.
I spent years trying to save my mom from her alcoholism before I learned the person I needed to save was myself. My memoir is the story of that reckoning and everything I write is for anyone who’s spent their life putting everyone else first.
meet jody
I had to learn it all from scratch.
I didn’t grow up with smoothies and meditation retreats. I grew up with an alcoholic mom, a lot of chaos, and zero blueprint for how to take care of myself.
For decades, I was the responsible one, managing everyone else’s emotions, holding things together, trying to save my mom from herself. I was functioning, but I wasn’t living.
At some point I realized I was so busy trying to save her and hold together my family’s big, chaotic life, that I’d never taken care of myself. That realization changed everything. Now I’m writing a memoir about that journey and sharing everything I’ve learned along the way.
What I write about
Permission to Put Yourself First
Making the case that it’s not selfish, it’s not abandonment, and it’s not giving up. Putting yourself first is the job you were always supposed to have.
Letting Go of Someone You Love
How to stop trying to fix someone. How to detach without feeling like you’re abandoning them. How to choose yourself after a lifetime of choosing everyone else.
Building a Life You Actually Enjoy
Learning to rest, have fun, pursue what you love, and enjoy being alive. These are skills — and you can learn them, even starting from scratch.
Is this you?
You can’t remember the last time you truly relaxed.
Rest feels lazy. Doing nothing feels dangerous. You’re always on — managing, planning, anticipating what could go wrong — because that’s what you learned to do when you were young. You’re exhausted, but you don’t know how to stop.
You’re in the right place. Start with the free blueprint.
You’re great at taking care of everyone except yourself.
You’re the person everyone calls. The one who holds it together. But when it comes to your own needs? You don’t even know what they are. You’ve spent so long putting everyone else first that “taking care of yourself” feels like a foreign language.
You’re in the right place. Start with the free blueprint.
You love someone you can’t fix and it’s breaking you.
Maybe it’s a parent, a partner, a sibling. You’ve tried everything. You’ve sacrificed your peace, your energy, your joy. And nothing has changed — except you’re more depleted than ever. You know something has to give, but you don’t know how to let go without feeling like you’re giving up.
You’re in the right place. Start with the free blueprint.
My debut memoir
My Job is Me
She tried to save her mom. Then she learned to save herself.
A memoir about growing up as the daughter of an alcoholic mother, spending years trying to hold everything together, and the painful, liberating discovery that your first job in life is not to save other people. It’s to take good care of yourself.
For anyone who has ever loved someone they couldn’t fix.
Coming September 2026
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The stuff nobody taught you
Every week, I share what I’m learning about taking care of yourself, letting go of people you can’t save, and building a life that actually feels good. No jargon, no lectures — just honest conversations from someone who had to figure it all out from scratch.
the free guide
The Blueprint You Never Got
How to start taking care of yourself when you’ve been too busy taking care of everyone else. A practical starter guide for people who are ready to finally put themselves first.
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What readers have to say
“Your writing made me feel seen for the first time in my life.”
Maria S.
“You gave me permission to stop trying to save my dad and I didn’t even know I needed it.”
Kaela G.
“Your insights gave me so much clarity. Thank you.”