You’ve spent your whole life taking care of everyone but yourself.
I grew up trying to save my alcoholic mom. It took me decades to realize the person I actually needed to save was me. My Job Is Me is my memoir about that — the caretaking, the letting go, and the life that became possible on the other side. It’s for anyone who has ever loved someone they couldn’t fix.
Out Sept. 29, 2026. Paperback & ebook.
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meet jody
I had to learn it all from scratch.
I grew up with an alcoholic mom, a lot of chaos, and zero blueprint for how to take care of myself.
I was the responsible one — managing everyone’s emotions, holding everything together, trying to save my mom from herself. From the outside, I looked fine. Inside, I was functioning, but I wasn’t living.
Then, at 26, it hit me: I’d spent so long trying to save her that I’d never learned to take care of myself. That changed everything. I wrote a memoir about it — and I’m sharing what I’ve learned along the way.
Is this you?
You can’t remember the last time you truly relaxed.
Rest feels lazy. Doing nothing feels dangerous. You’re always on — managing, planning, anticipating what could go wrong — because that’s what you learned to do when you were young. You’re exhausted, but you don’t know how to stop.
I wrote this book for you.
You’re great at taking care of everyone except yourself.
You’re the person everyone calls. The one who holds it together. But when it comes to your own needs? You don’t even know what they are. You’ve spent so long putting everyone else first that “taking care of yourself” feels like a foreign language.
You’re in the right place. Start with the free blueprint.
You love someone you can’t fix and it’s breaking you.
Maybe it’s a parent, a partner, a sibling. You’ve tried everything. You’ve sacrificed your peace, your energy, your joy. And nothing has changed — except you’re more depleted than ever. You know something has to give, but you don’t know how to let go without feeling like you’re giving up.
This is the heart of the memoir I wrote.
My debut memoir
My Job Is Me
She tried to save her mom. Then she learned to save herself.
For most of my life I believed that if I loved my mother hard enough, managed enough, anticipated enough, I could keep her from drinking. I was wrong, and finding that out nearly cost me my own life.
This is the story of what it took to stop — and what I found on the other side of stopping. It isn’t a self-help book. It’s a true story, told honestly, about the messiest parts of loving someone with addiction and the slow, imperfect work of learning to take care of yourself.
For anyone who has ever loved someone they couldn’t fix.
What you’ll find in this book
A story that feels like yours
Even if our details are different, the experience of being the responsible one — of loving someone you can’t fix — is universal. You’ll see yourself in these pages.
Permission you didn’t know you needed
Permission to stop fixing. Permission to put yourself first. Permission to let go of someone you love without calling it failure.
A way forward
It walks you through it and shows you what’s on the other side: a life that’s actually yours.
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The Blueprint You Never Got
How to start taking care of yourself when you’ve been too busy taking care of everyone else. A practical starter guide for people who are ready to finally put themselves first.
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The stuff nobody taught you
Every week, I share what I’m learning about taking care of yourself, letting go of people you can’t save, and building a life that actually feels good. No jargon. No lectures. Just honest conversations from someone who had to figure it all out from scratch.
What readers have to say
“Your writing made me feel seen for the first time in my life.”
Maria S.
“You gave me permission to stop trying to save my dad and I didn’t even know I needed it.”
Kayla G.
“Your insights gave me so much clarity. Thank you.”